Robert Kandell has spent the last 20 years helping people re-energize their lives and build better relationships and sex through more honest and authentic connection and communication. After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded One Taste (orgasmic meditation) in 2004. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market, Robert built his current thriving company, Kandell Consulting, from a paper napkin, and now is helping businesses all over the world become marketable and profitable.

Robert is also an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer with over 400 workshops under his belt. He also brings his enthusiasm and passion to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love, on subjects around relationships, intimacy, sex, communication and gender dynamics.

 

This is one of my favorite episodes to date. I learned so much from Robert and I can’t wait to have him on the show again!

 

This episode is for you if:

  • You want to learn how to tell your partner the truth

  • You want to better understand how men and women communicate differently

  • You want to create structures to have a more honest relationship

  • You want to know how to ask for what you want in bed

 

Highlights of our conversation

  • 2:15 - Getting to know Robert

  • 6:15 - Robert discovers home at Burning Man

  • 9:45 - Communication 101 for men and women

  • 13:40 - The key differences between masculine and feminine

  • 17:00 - Bridging the gap when you can’t change their mind

  • 21:37 - Why are we afraid of honesty?

  • 24:08 - What is the role of tough love in a relationship?

  • 26:03 - The three elements of communication

  • 28:05 - Insidious forms of communication OR stop texting

  • 31:27 - Communication, sex, and #MeToo

  • 37:20 - Should a white cisgender man be able to complain?

  • 40:30 - How can women encourage men to be more feminine?

  • 43:00 - Have the best sex of your life

  • 50:14 - Robert answers the jar of Lols

 

Find Robert

 

Credits

🎧 Listen here for iTunes (don't forget to subscribe & rate!)

🎧 Listen here for Android.

🎧 Listen here in Spotify.

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